I’d done everything the parenting
books and my well-intentioned friends had told me to do, and yet, here was my beloved child, in whom I’m generally well-pleased,
having a complete hissy-fit meltdown about her bedtime. I’m not talking
about garden-variety petulance; I’m talking full blown red-in-the-face temper tantrum.
This was totally out of character for my kid. I was about ten seconds
shy of calling my pastor to ask him our church’s stance on exorcism and his immediately availability therefor. Finally, my daughter exhausted herself and fell asleep.
Being the great woman of faith and
power that I am, of course I turned to prayer. I asked and fully expected God
to answer… immediately, if not sooner. Unfortunately, I didn’t get
immediate service, nor did I get it the next night or the next, or the next, or the next. That
solitary night was the beginning of about six months’ worth of sleeping issues at my house.
I could tell you that I faithfully persevered
through that time resolutely praying and believing God for an answer, but that wouldn’t be true. When I didn’t get the immediate results I had fully expected, my behavior began to closely resemble
that of my daughter’s. I threw a spiritual temper tantrum. I believed God could, with one word, completely transform the situation to the peaceful tranquility that
I wanted, but for some reason he wouldn’t give me what I wanted when I wanted it.
Was God listening? Was I doing something wrong? Was there something somewhere I was missing? I found myself
where the father in Mark 9 found himself: believing that God could make it all
better, but not understanding why he was taking so long.
How many times do you think the father
in the story prayed for his son to be delivered? Imagine the horror of helplessly
watching your child’s life constantly threatened by spiritual forces beyond your control? Maybe he’d sought advice from the rabbis that didn’t work.
We know he tried getting help from Jesus’ disciples that was worthless.
Can you blame the poor guy if his belief was a quart low by the time Jesus arrived?
The most important line of the story
is the last one. “Help me overcome my unbelief.” Both the father in this story and I believed in a God that could help us, but we had some serious unbelief
questions too. There are always going to be things that happen to us that we
don’t understand. Stuff that we believe shouldn’t happen to someone
who believes in God. Sometimes God will show us the whys and sometimes he won’t.
I don’t know why my daughter had
sleep issues. I’ve never figured it out and she’s not mature enough
to explain it to me. All I know is the situation is over and that’s fine
with me. Jesus didn’t explain to this father why his son was tormented
by demons. He just delivered him, and I’m sure that was good enough for
him too.
The trick isn’t in understanding
the way every piece falls into place for your life. The trick is in trusting
the God who holds the pieces.
© Sandra Perry 2008